Bedwetting is something many families face. The good news? Most of the time, it is not a sign of many major medical or emotional issues. The bad news? It can still be a traumatizing experience for your child, especially if not dealt with properly.
The thing with bedwetting is that it can be a stressful problem for your child. Your child will feel embarrassed and guilty about wetting the bed, and is anxious about spending the night anywhere else for fear that it may happen. And as a parent, you can’t help but feel helpless.
How common is it?
What you and your child need to know about bedwetting is that it’s absolutely normal! Especially for children under the age of six. Also known as Enuresis, bedwetting is a very common problem for children, especially for boys. For some, it happens more often than usual but it is not an uncommon thing for a child to have an accident or two.
Why is your child having this problem? There are a few bedwetting causes:
Did you have a bedwetting problem when you were a child? Chances are your child will have the same problem as it is heredity.
Your child’s bladder may be smaller in size (children’s bladders only reach full size past 12) and not developed enough to hold urine produced during the night.
Your child could be a deep sleeper who doesn’t respond as he should to the internal signal to urinate.
For more serious cases, your child can have some underlying medical causes such as urinary tract infections, chronic constipation, diabetes and a structural problem to the nervous system. However, these cases are often very rare.
Emotional factors such as anxiety, being bullied, starting a new school, stress and so forth.
Addressing bedwetting blues
- First, don’t let the issue slide. While bedwetting usually goes away on its own, you will still need to address it to provide your child support and positive reinforcement during this process. The most important thing to do? Reassure your child that it is a normal part of growing up and that it will not last forever. This will comfort your child and help him eventually grow out of it.
Here are more suggestions on how you can address the bedwetting blues.
- Be sensitive
It is important to tell everyone else in the household to be sensitive about the issue. Bedwetting can have a serious emotional effect on your child so making a big deal out of it will only cause him to feel ashamed. If you have other children, tell them not to make fun of their sibling as it will only be more difficult for him to overcome the problem.
Also, you have to watch your own sensitivity levels. It can be frustrating to change the sheets every time, especially in the morning when you are rushing for work. Without realising, you may even lash out at your child, which will linger in his mind and make him feel ashamed. So remember to calm down and work at being less annoyed at the situation. Strip the sheets and leave the cleaning for later if you must. Keep rags and cleaning products nearby for fast cleaning.
2. Get your child involved
Let your child help, whether it is to tidy up or to help strip the sheets off. By doing so, your child will feel better about himself knowing that he has helped out. This will also help him feel less inept or babyish about himself.
Work out an action plan with your child on how best to deal with bedwetting, whether it is telling you immediately or asking for help if he needs to go to the toilet. Getting your child involved this way makes him feel more in control of his problem and better able to cope with it. Also, offer your child praise when he has a dry night.
3. Avoid the accident
Oftentimes, bedwetting can be avoided. Limit how much your child drinks in the evening, especially when it gets closer to bedtime. It is recommended that your child has 40 per cent of his liquids between 7 am to noon, another 40 per cent between noon to 5 pm, and the remaining 20 per cent after 5 pm.
4. Encourage regular toilet use throughout the day. Teach your child to urinate once every two hours so that he doesn’t get used to holding it in. Also, encourage double voiding – urinating at the beginning of the bedtime routine and then again just before falling asleep.
Make sure the toilet is accessible for your child so he can use it during the night if needed. Use small night lights so he can find his way through the room. Also, place the bed as close as you can to the toilet. Every few seconds count when it comes to bedwetting.
3. Pay close attention to your child
Bedwetting can be an indication of bigger issues, especially emotional ones. If you notice your child wetting the bed more regular than not, then make sure you pay attention to his behaviour. While it is rare that a child wets the bed because of a bigger issue, things like withdrawing himself, sudden changes in appetite, fearfulness, mood swings, loss of bladder control even during the day and bruising on the body can be signs that there is a lot more going on with your child’s life that needs to be addressed immediately.
You also need to see the doctor when your child starts complaining of a burning sensation when urinating, when he has swollen feet or ankles, when he is urinating more than usual, when he starts wetting the bed after being consistently dry for at least six months, and when he is still wetting the bed at age seven.
Other than that, you and your child need to remember that bedwetting is a common problem and nearly all children outgrow it. With a little patience and positive thinking, it can be resolved.
source : yahoo she