Parenthood is a huge step, so how do you know when you’re ready?
Here are some basic things you’ll want to have covered before going into baby-making mode.
If you’ve got most of these ducks in a row, chances are good that you’re well suited to take the leap.
1. You must be Emotionally and Psychologically prepared.
Parenting can be emotionally and psychologically challenging. If you’re not in good emotional shape pre-baby, you’re more likely to have trouble with the inevitable difficulties that parenting presents. If you struggle with depression or anxiety, have major problems with your self-image or relationships, or generally just feel mentally “off,” think about seeking help from a professional before pursuing parenthood.
2. Start creating a Home atmosphere.
Children need to feel safe and secure, and home is where that feeling starts. It doesn’t have to be a traditional white picket fence scene in the suburbs, though. A home can be anywhere — even on the road — as long as it comes with a feeling of stability and a sense of continuity for kids. Instilling that feeling when a home moves around a lot is harder but not impossible.
3. Start building a Teamwork or a partnership.
Learning to parent well together is a struggle no matter how strong your relationship. You’ve got to be able to negotiate tough decisions about things you don’t see eye-to-eye on. If you’re worried about whether you and your partner are on the same page, couples counseling may help you come together and decide what’s best for your situation. Plan together and foresight together.
4. Have some level of Financial Security
You don’t have to be a Trump, but having some level of financial security will help when it comes to raising kids. There is a big difference between feeling somewhat strapped for cash and truly worried about whether you can make ends meet. It’s certainly possible to parent on a shoestring, but being in very bad financial shape will add more stress to an already stressful endeavor.
5. Retain privacy and spending time just together.
The early years of parenthood are pretty all-consuming. You might be able to get out on the town, occasionally, but barring live-in help, nights out will probably be few and far between and bear a faint resemblance to the good, old pre-parent nights.On the other hand, if your idea of a fun night involves a movie on the couch be ready — give or take some interruptions.
6. Create a Parenting Support.
Simply put: support makes parenting easier. It can be your partner’s commitment to taking on an equal share of the parenting work, or your mother-in-law’s offer to watch the baby a few hours a week, or friends who has experienced motherhood.
7. Resolve Ways of raising kids.
Funny, true thing: your relationship with your parents plays a huge role in how you parent. So, if you have unresolved issues about how your parents raised you, you might want to try to work those out before you have kids. Meddling of in laws can be frustrating too.
8. Prepare yourself Physically to the Future responsibility.
Remember: the thing your child will need most is you. Have regular exercises, and good diet and nutrition and rest well.
9. The excitement on the idea of having a baby is fine.
Sure, you can have a baby without looking forward to it and be perfectly thrilled afterward. But enthusiasm can do wonders to help get you through the tough parts. Enthusiasm reflects confidence and feeds it, too. Don’t be worried if your excitement is mixed with anxiety. Being nervous just shows how seriously you’re taking this monumental move. Parenthood is constantly evolving, as will your expectations along the way.
10. Work it out if you’re a working Woman
If you’re happy with what you’ve accomplished professionally the arrival of your baby might cause an interference. Set your priorities of Family Formation . You might feel less stressed out during the early years of parenthood. It’s also important to be open to the idea of redefining yourself in different terms. If you judge yourself by how much you get done, you’re likely to feel resentful about the inevitable interference a baby will cause.