Secrets Guys Wish You (Ladies) Knew

Published February 4, 2013 by teacher dahl


Men Will Talk About Feelings 

Was your guy raised as a traditional, stoic, man’s man? If so, let WebMD walk you through 18 relationship secrets, gathered from psychologists who study gender roles. Secret No. 1: It may be easier for your man to talk about feelings indirectly. Ask what he’d do during a romantic weekend. Or what he thought the first time he met you. His answers will reveal how he feels and bring you closer.

Men Take Commitment Seriously


Men have a reputation for being afraid to commit. But the evidence suggests men take marriage seriously. They may take longer to commit because they want to make sure they are onboard for good. In a survey of currently married men, 90% say they would marry the same woman again.

Shared Activities Form Bonds


Men strengthen their relationships with their partners through doing things together, more than by sharing thoughts or feelings. For many men, activities like sports and sex make them feel closer to their partner.

Men Need Time for Themselves

While shared activities are important, men also need time for themselves. Whether your guy enjoys golf, gardening, or working out at the gym, encourage him to pursue his hobbies, while you make time for your own. When both partners have space to nurture their individuality, they have more to give to each other.

Men Think About Sex … A Lot

OK, so maybe this one is no secret. Most men under age 60 think about sex at least once a day, compared with only a quarter of women. And that’s not all. Men fantasize about sex nearly twice as often as women do, and their fantasies are much more varied. They also think more about casual sex than women do. But thinking is not the same as doing.

Men Find Sex Significant

It’s a myth that most men think sex is just sex. For many, sex is a very important act between two committed people. And just like most women, men find sexual intimacy to be most satisfying within a committed relationship. One reason is that long-term partners know how to please one another better than strangers do.

He Likes It When You Initiate Sex


Most guys feel as though they’re the ones who always initiate sex. But they also like to be pursued and wish their partner would take the lead more often. Don’t be shy about letting your guy know you’re in the mood. Initiating sex some of the time may lead to a higher level of satisfaction for both of you.

Guys Aren’t Always Up for Sex


Men, much to many women’s surprise, aren’t always in the mood for sex. Just like women, men are often stressed by the demands of work, family, and paying the bills. And stress is a big libido crusher. When a guy says, “not tonight,” it doesn’t mean he’s lost interest in you. He just means he doesn’t want to have sex right then.

Men Like Pleasing Their Partner

Your pleasure is important to your man. But he won’t know what you want unless you tell him. Too many women feel uncomfortable talking about what they like and don’t like. If you can tell him clearly in a way that doesn’t bruise his ego, he’ll listen. Because he knows he’ll feel good if you feel good.

Guys Get Performance AnxietyImage

Most men get performance anxiety on occasion, especially as they age. Your guy may worry about his body, technique, and stamina. If you can help him learn to relax and stay focused on the pleasures of the moment, sex will become less stressful.

Men May Stray When Needs Aren’t Met

If a man doesn’t feel loved and appreciated in his relationship, he may turn elsewhere for satisfaction. For one man, that may mean burying himself in work. Another may develop a fixation on sports or video games. And some men cheat. To avoid this, partners need to work together to meet each other’s needs.

He’s Vested in You


Most men realize there’s a lot to lose if a long-term relationship goes sour — not just each other’s company, but the entire life you’ve built together. If you’re willing to work to strengthen your marriage, chances are your man will be, too.

Source: Web MD

86 comments on “Secrets Guys Wish You (Ladies) Knew

  • Men Take Commitment Seriously

    i agree, i have a brother with the same feeling about this.. . and i have this long time crush he hasn’t yet commited because he really wants to be with his girl in a very special girl … how do i know about this haha because he told me so!! i really like him a lot but he doesn’t know yet.. . because we know we’re not ready yet!! ^__^v


  • #3. It is human’s nature to fantasize about sex. Because it is one of man’s basic needs. But mens have a higher level of such thing. However, it is not a valid measurement to prove ones love and affection.


  • #6 i agree. every guy would feel that way, because they are guys.. they always get an anxieties for everything they do, especially when it comes to intimate relationship so woman should know how to help man in relaxing and become stress free because with these things,. it can help one’s relationship to become stronger..


  • #2 Men Take Commitment Seriously

    Women should also know that man take commitment seriously. Erase the thought that for them relationship is just a play. Avoid stereotype.


  • I’m agree with the #4 🙂
    men should also find time knowing their selves better
    they should also find some time enjoying their hobbies. To have a good relationship with each other, both partners should recognize and realize their wants and principles in life first, development should start with their selves in order for them to understand each other . 🙂 ^_^


  • i take number two: (Men Take Commitment Seriously)

    – for my own opinion men always think about what will happen next of what will happen in the future if they commit a relationship …


  • #2 ( Men take commitment seriously )
    Yes, true that men has that reputation that our commitment for marriage or having a family is really a big deal for men. We won’t let this commitment break what ever happened. When we say something or when we promised things we will do it what ever it takes. =)


  • #8
    i agree with this. Our life is sometimes full of activities that gives us stress so some men do not think about sex. For a relationship work, you must respect the decision of each other.


  • #5 Men Think About Sex … A Lot

    I agree with that, now a days SOME men are entering into a relationship not because he loved his partner but for the sake of sex. HAHA :D.


  • #2 Men take commitment seriously

    I do really agree.As a man, its really true that what we say we will do it whatever happens. A promise is a promise. When I am engage in a commitment I take it seriously.


  • #2 Men Take Commitment Seriously

    Yes, I agree with this. I have a friend who has this attitude. I mean, he doesn’t have a girlfriend. He doesn’t want to have a commitment yet.. He told me he wants to stay single. And when he already choose to have a commitment, he’ll make sure that it’s for good..


  • Guys Get Performance Anxiety

    It is of a natural phenomenon for people to grow weak, tired, and weary as they age. We, guys, become conscious of our abilities because of this, so, you, girls, should help us relax and stay in our composure. By doing so, anxieties would be lessen, and relationship would be better 🙂


  • Men Will Talk About Feelings

    Secret No. 1: It may be easier for your man to talk about feelings indirectly. Ask what he’d do during a romantic weekend. Or what he thought the first time he met you. His answers will reveal how he feels and bring you closer.



  • #3 is beneficial to any couple,whether you’re so in sync it’s like you were born to be together or if you’re one of those couples that epitomize the expression “opposites attract……” no matter what type of couple you are, those who spend time together do better in the long run,…..It’s not just about the shared experiences,…..It also shows a level of dedication and respect for your partner when you partake in his or her passions,… 😀 🙂


  • Shared Activities Form Bonds

    Hmmm… I guess this proves that men are more in the kinesthetic intelligence than in verbal intelligence? Well, kidding aside, I guess this is true. I don’t really know much about men, but as I have heard/learned from my male friends, yeah, I think this is true.

    Based on my friends, they would really prefer doing something with their mates. Sharing thoughts or feelings are okay, but it should be kept in minimum (as they said) because too much talk about those stuffs makes them feel the love of the woman is fake or feel that there is something lacking. That’s what I think though 😛


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