Sex Disinterest, What Can Be Done?

Published July 25, 2014 by by : teacherdahl

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What is sexual dysfunction?
When you have problems with sex, doctors call it “sexual dysfunction.” Men and women can have it. There are four kinds of sexual problems in women.

Desire disorders. If you have a desire disorder you may not be interested in having sex. Or, you may have less desire for sex than you used to.

  • Arousal disorders. When you don’t feel a sexual response in your body or you start to respond but can’t keep it up, you might have an arousal disorder.
  • Orgasmic disorders. If you can’t have an orgasm or you have pain during orgasm, you may have an orgasmic disorder.
  • Sex pain disorders. When you have pain during or after sex, you may have a sex pain disorder. In some women, the muscles in the outer part of the vagina tighten when you start to have sex. A man’s penis or a vibrator can’t get into the tight vagina.

What causes sexual dysfunction?
Medicines, diseases (like diabetes or high blood pressure), alcohol use, or vaginal infections can cause sexual problems.

Depression, an unhappy relationship or abuse (now or in the past) can also cause sexual problems.

You may have less sexual desire during pregnancy, right after childbirth or when you are breast-feeding. After menopause many women feel less sexual desire, have vaginal dryness or have pain during sex.

The stresses of everyday life can affect your ability to have sex. Being tired from a busy job or caring for young children may make you feel less desire to have sex. Or, you may be bored by a long-standing sexual routine.

How do I know if I have a problem?
Up to 70 percent of couples have a problem with sex at some time. Most women sometimes have sex that doesn’t feel good. This doesn’t mean you have a sexual problem.

If you don’t want to have sex or it never feels good, you might have a sexual problem. The best person to decide if you have a sexual problem is you! Discuss your worries with your doctor. Remember that anything you tell your doctor is private.

What can I do?
To improve your desire, change your usual routine. You may want to rent an erotic video or read a “sexy” book with your partner.

 

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  1. Arousal disorders can be helped if you use a vaginal cream for dryness. Mineral oil also works. If you have gone through menopause, talk to your doctor about taking estrogen.
  2. If you have a problem having an orgasm, masturbation can help you. Extra stimulation (before you have sex with your partner) with a vibrator may be helpful. You might need rubbing or stimulation for up to an hour before having sex. Many women don’t have an orgasm during intercourse. If you want an orgasm with intercourse, you or your partner may want to gently stroke your clitoris.
  3. If you’re having pain during sex, try different positions. When you are on top, you have more control over penetration and movement. Empty your bladder before you have sex. Try using extra creams or try taking a warm bath before sex. If your sex pain doesn’t go away, talk to your doctor.
  4. If you have a tight vagina, you can try using something like a tampon to help you get used to relaxing your vagina. Your doctor can tell you more about this.

What else can I do?

  • Learn more about your body and how it works. Ask your doctor about how medicines, illnesses, surgery, age, pregnancy or menopause can affect sex.
  • Practice “sensate focus” exercises where one partner gives a massage, while the other partner says what feels good and requests changes (example: “lighter,” “faster,” etc).
  • Fantasizing may increase your desire. Squeezing the muscles of your vagina tightly and then relaxing them may increase your arousal. Try sexual activity other than intercourse, such as massage, oral sex or masturbation.

What about my partner?

  1. Talk with your partner about what each of you like and dislike, or what you might want to try.
  2. Ask for your partner’s help. Remember that your partner may not want to do some things you want to try. Or, you may not want to try what your partner wants.
  3. You should respect each other’s comforts and discomforts. This helps you and your partner have a good sexual relationship.
  4. If you can’t talk to your partner, your doctor or a counselor may be able to help you.

If you feel like a partner is abusing you, you should tell your doctor.

How can my doctor help?
Talk to your doctor about your sexual health. Explain your problems openly and honestly. Your doctor can also give you ideas about treating your sexual problems or can refer you to a sex therapist or counselor if it is needed.

 

source : American Family Physician

Bedwetting blues

Published July 23, 2014 by by : teacherdahl

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Bedwetting is something many families face. The good news? Most of the time, it is not a sign of many major medical or emotional issues. The bad news? It can still be a traumatizing experience for your child, especially if not dealt with properly.

The thing with bedwetting is that it can be a stressful problem for your child. Your child will feel embarrassed and guilty about wetting the bed, and is anxious about spending the night anywhere else for fear that it may happen. And as a parent, you can’t help but feel helpless.

How common is it?

What you and your child need to know about bedwetting is that it’s absolutely normal! Especially for children under the age of six. Also known as Enuresis, bedwetting is a very common problem for children, especially for boys. For some, it happens more often than usual but it is not an uncommon thing for a child to have an accident or two.

Why is your child having this problem? There are a few bedwetting causes:

Did you have a bedwetting problem when you were a child? Chances are your child will have the same problem as it is heredity.

Your child’s bladder may be smaller in size (children’s bladders only reach full size past 12) and not developed enough to hold urine produced during the night.

Your child could be a deep sleeper who doesn’t respond as he should to the internal signal to urinate.

For more serious cases, your child can have some underlying medical causes such as urinary tract infections, chronic constipation, diabetes and a structural problem to the nervous system. However, these cases are often very rare.

Emotional factors such as anxiety, being bullied, starting a new school, stress and so forth.

Addressing bedwetting blues

  • First, don’t let the issue slide. While bedwetting usually goes away on its own, you will still need to address it to provide your child support and positive reinforcement during this process. The most important thing to do? Reassure your child that it is a normal part of growing up and that it will not last forever. This will comfort your child and help him eventually grow out of it.

Here are more suggestions on how you can address the bedwetting blues.

  1. Be sensitive
    It is important to tell everyone else in the household to be sensitive about the issue. Bedwetting can have a serious emotional effect on your child so making a big deal out of it will only cause him to feel ashamed. If you have other children, tell them not to make fun of their sibling as it will only be more difficult for him to overcome the problem.

Also, you have to watch your own sensitivity levels. It can be frustrating to change the sheets every time, especially in the morning when you are rushing for work. Without realising, you may even lash out at your child, which will linger in his mind and make him feel ashamed. So remember to calm down and work at being less annoyed at the situation. Strip the sheets and leave the cleaning for later if you must. Keep rags and cleaning products nearby for fast cleaning.

      2. Get your child involved

Let your child help, whether it is to tidy up or to help strip the sheets off. By doing so, your child will feel better about himself knowing that he has helped out. This will also help him feel less inept or babyish about himself.

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Work out an action plan with your child on how best to deal with bedwetting, whether it is telling you immediately or asking for help if he needs to go to the toilet. Getting your child involved this way makes him feel more in control of his problem and better able to cope with it. Also, offer your child praise when he has a dry night.

    3. Avoid the accident
Oftentimes, bedwetting can be avoided. Limit how much your child drinks in the evening, especially when it gets closer to bedtime. It is recommended that your child has 40 per cent of his liquids between 7 am to noon, another 40 per cent between noon to 5 pm, and the remaining 20 per cent after 5 pm.

     4. Encourage regular toilet use throughout the day. Teach your child to urinate once every two hours so that he doesn’t get used to holding it in. Also, encourage double voiding – urinating at the beginning of the bedtime routine and then again just before falling asleep.

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Make sure the toilet is accessible for your child so he can use it during the night if needed. Use small night lights so he can find his way through the room. Also, place the bed as close as you can to the toilet. Every few seconds count when it comes to bedwetting.

3. Pay close attention to your child
Bedwetting can be an indication of bigger issues, especially emotional ones. If you notice your child wetting the bed more regular than not, then make sure you pay attention to his behaviour. While it is rare that a child wets the bed because of a bigger issue, things like withdrawing himself, sudden changes in appetite, fearfulness, mood swings, loss of bladder control even during the day and bruising on the body can be signs that there is a lot more going on with your child’s life that needs to be addressed immediately.

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You also need to see the doctor when your child starts complaining of a burning sensation when urinating, when he has swollen feet or ankles, when he is urinating more than usual, when he starts wetting the bed after being consistently dry for at least six months, and when he is still wetting the bed at age seven.

Other than that, you and your child need to remember that bedwetting is a common problem and nearly all children outgrow it. With a little patience and positive thinking, it can be resolved.

source : yahoo she

 

Household tip : Getting Rid of Fruit Flies in a Compost Bin

Published July 20, 2014 by by : teacherdahl

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Fruit flies are such a pain to get rid of,  once they’re in your house. But what do you do if your vermi composting  bin has fruit flies? Sure we could always keep the  bin outside, but when the temperatures are in the upper 90′s outside the poor worms will cook in our worm bin. We thought about putting the worm bin in the shop or barn, but those two places also get pretty warm when the temperatures soar. Our last resort was putting them in the house. But before they moved into the house, we needed to get rid of those pesky fruit flies!

Three Key Elements to Get Rid of Fruit Flies in a Compost Bin
I eventually discovered three key elements to keep fruit flies out of the worm composting bin while still feeding them fruit and vegetable scraps. I’ve been doing these two things for a couple weeks now and we no longer have issues with fruit flies! What does that mean? Our worms now live in the house, in a nice shady corner of the laundry room.

#1: Freeze all worm “food” before adding it to the bin.

 

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Fruit flies lay their eggs on the skin of produce. When frozen, the eggs are killed. We now keep a gallon size plastic bag in the freezer and add produce scraps to it as we have them. Once the bag is full, I keep it in the freezer for another 24 hours just to make sure the last batch of scraps added to it have a chance to fully freeze.

After freezing the produce scraps for at least 24 hours, remove them from the freezer. Let them thaw and return to room temperature. Then they are ready to be fed to your worms. After the produce is frozen and then thawed, it all starts to turn in to a slimy mess which the worms love even more!

#2: Bury the food in the worm bin.

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Instead of laying the produce scraps on top of the other materials in the bin, bury them. I keep a small hand rake by the worm bin so when I feed them I can use it to carefully rake the other materials back and bury the new food. The idea behind burying the food is that it keeps it out of reach to any flying insects, like fruit flies, that may happen to sneak into your bin. If they can’t reach it, they won’t lay eggs in it.

 

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#3: Put damp newspaper scraps on the top layer of the compost bin.

We tore newspaper into thin 1/2″-1″ wide strips and laid it on top of the other layers of material in our worm bin. If you tear with the grain of the paper, you will be amazed at how easily it tears in nice uniform strips! Place enough newspaper strips on top so you can’t see the next layer underneath. Again the idea with this is to keep the soil layer or any food scraps poking up through inaccessible to the fruit flies to lay eggs.

Spritz water on the newspaper strips until they are damp. This is another great way to gauge the moisture level in the worm bin. For a newbie vermicomposter, trying to figure out if the bin is wet enough or too wet can be tricky. The newspaper is an easy gauge. When you check the worm bin and the newspaper is dried out, sprtiz it with water until it is damp again. If the newspaper is soaking wet, it is probably a little too wet in the bin and the lid needs to stay off for a bit. We’ve also noticed that the worms loved to eat the newspaper layer so eventually you will need to add more as they consume it.

Metabolism What is it and How Does it Work?

Published July 18, 2014 by by : teacherdahl

metabolism

 

Metabolism is ultimately a collection of chemical reactions that takes place in the body’s cells converting the fuel in the food we eat into the energy needed to power everything we do, from moving to thinking to growing. In fact, thousands of metabolic reactions happen at the same time – all regulated by the body – to keep our cells healthy and working.

There are two processes, or rather, two interactive channels by which metabolism runs.

  • Catabolism refers to the breakdown of food components (such as carbohydrates, proteins and fats) into their simpler forms, which can then be used to create energy. Think of it as your “destructive metabolism” which produces the energy required for all activity in the cells. In this process, cells break down carbohydrates and fats to release energy and fuel all anabolic reactions, such as heating the body, giving the muscles power to contract and the body to move. As complex chemical units are broken down into more simple substances, the waste products released in the process of catabolism are removed from the body through the skin, kidneys, lungs, and intestines.
  • Anabolism is your “constructive metabolism” that gives which is all about building and storing. All anabolic processes support the growth of new cells, the maintenance of body tissues, and the storage of energy for use in the future.

These are governed by your Hormonal and Nervous systems. Interestingly, they work together like a team complimenting every single cellular action in your body.

Trying to determine your caloric need for the day? Your body’s metabolic rate (or total energy expenditure) is the one that says it all – you are what you eat, how you move, how much you rest and how well all cells and tissues are able to recuperate. Energy expenditure is continuous, but the rate varies throughout the day. The lowest rate of energy expenditure is usually in the early morning.

The complexity of metabolism can be divided into three components:

  • Basal metabolic rate (BMR) - is the amount of kilojoules burned at rest and contributes 50-80% of your energy used. The BMR refers to the amount of energy your body needs to maintain itself. This accounts for 50-80% of your total energy use. Total lean mass, especially muscle mass, is largely responsible for the BMR. So, anything that reduces lean mass will reduce BMR. That’s why it’s important to preserve muscle mass when you try to lose weight, since the BMR accounts for so much of the energy we use. An average male may have a BMR of around 7,100kJ per day, while an average female may have a BMR of around 5,900kJ per day.
  • Energy used during physical activity – this is the amount of kilojoules burned during movement and physical activity. The energy expenditure of the muscles makes up only 20% or so of the total energy expenditure at rest but, during strenuous exercise, the rate of energy expenditure of the muscles may go up 50-fold or more. Since energy used during exercise is the only form of energy expenditure that you have any control over, take advantage of this phenomenon and start moving more!
  • Thermic effect of food - this is the energy you use to eat, digest and metabolize food. Regardless of what you thought before, eating actually raises your metabolism. No wonder diet-obsessed meal-skippers burn less calories AND have no energy to move. After each meal, the metabolic rise occurs soon after you start eating and peaks two to three hours later. It can range between 2-3% and up to 25-30%, depending on the size of the meal and the types of foods eaten. Fats raise the BMR by 4%, carbohydrates by 6% and proteins by up to 30%! Hot spicy foods can also have a significant thermic effect.

 

source: shapefit.com

Relaxation Techniques That Zap Stress Fast

Published July 12, 2014 by by : teacherdahl

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1. Meditate

  •  There are many different ways to experience the benefits of meditation. One soothing method is to meditate in the bath. A bath meditation combines the standard benefits of meditation (you can read about the benefits of meditation — they’re pretty amazing) with the benefits of a soothing, hot bath, which can relax tired muscles, provide a relaxing atmosphere, and allow a temporary feeling of escape from stressors. 
  • Another method :  Sit up straight with both feet on the floor. Close your eyes. Focus your attention on reciting — out loud or silently — a positive mantra such as “I feel at peace” or “I love myself.” Place one hand on your belly to sync the mantra with your breaths. Let any distracting thoughts float by like clouds.

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2. Breathe Deeply

Take a 5-minute break and focus on your breathing. Sit up straight, eyes closed, with a hand on your belly. Slowly inhale through your nose, feeling the breath start in your abdomen and work its way to the top of your head. Reverse the process as you exhale through your mouth.

“Deep breathing counters the effects of stress by slowing the heart rate and lowering blood pressure,” psychologist Judith Tutin, PhD, says. She’s a certified life coach in Rome, GA.

3. Be Present : Slow down.

“Take 5 minutes and focus on only one behavior with awareness,” Tutin says. Notice how the air feels on your face when you’re walking and how your feet feel hitting the ground. Enjoy the texture and taste of each bite of food.

When you spend time in the moment and focus on your senses, you should feel less tense.

4. Reach Out

Your social network is one of your best tools for handling stress. Talk to others — preferably face to face, or at least on the phone. Share what’s going on. You can get a fresh perspective while keeping your connection strong.

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5. Tune In to Your Body

Mentally scan your body to get a sense of how stress affects it each day. Lie on your back, or sit with your feet on the floor. Start at your toes and work your way up to your scalp, noticing how your body feels.

“Simply be aware of places you feel tight or loose without trying to change anything,” Tutin says. For 1 to 2 minutes, imagine each deep breath flowing to that body part. Repeat this process as you move your focus up your body, paying close attention to sensations you feel in each body part.

 

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6. Decompress

Place a warm heat wrap around your neck and shoulders for 10 minutes. Close your eyes and relax your face, neck, upper chest, and back muscles. Remove the wrap, and use a tennis ball or foam roller to massage away tension.

 

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7. Laugh Out Loud

A good belly laugh doesn’t just lighten the load mentally. It lowers cortisol, your body’s stress hormone, and boosts brain chemicals called endorphins, which help your mood. Lighten up by tuning in to your favorite sitcom or video, reading the comics, or chatting with someone who makes you smile.

 

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8. Crank Up the Tunes

Research shows that listening to soothing music can lower blood pressure, heart rate, and anxiety. “Create a playlist of songs or nature sounds (the ocean, a bubbling brook, birds chirping), and allow your mind to focus on the different melodies, instruments, or singers in the piece,” Benninger says. You also can blow off steam by rocking out to more upbeat tunes — or singing at the top of your lungs!

 

 any form of exercise

9. Get Moving

You don’t have to run in order to get a runner’s high. All forms of exercise, including yoga and walking, can ease depression and anxiety by helping the brain release feel-good chemicals and by giving your body a chance to practice dealing with stress. You can go for a quick walk around the block, take the stairs up and down a few flights, or do some stretching exercises like head rolls and shoulder shrugs.

10. Be Grateful

Keep a gratitude journal or several (one by your bed, one in your purse, and one at work) to help you remember all the things that are good in your life.

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“Being grateful for your blessings cancels out negative thoughts and worries,” says Joni Emmerling, a wellness coach in Greenville, NC.

Use these journals to savor good experiences like a child’s smile, a sunshine-filled day, and good health. Don’t forget to celebrate accomplishments like mastering a new task at work or a new hobby.

When you start feeling stressed, spend a few minutes looking through your notes to remind yourself what really matters.

 source : Web MD

 

 

Tips to lower your ‘LDL’ (Bad) Cholesterol

Published July 7, 2014 by by : teacherdahl

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Low-density lipoprotein (LDL) is one of the five major groups of lipoproteins.Cholesterol can’t dissolve in the blood. It must be transported through your bloodstream by carriers called lipoproteins, which got their name because they’re made of fat (lipid) and proteins.
In a world of good and bad cholesterol, LDL is the bad one. LDL collects in the walls of blood vessels, causing the blockages of atherosclerosis. Higher LDL levels put you at greater risk for a heart attack from a sudden blood clot in an artery narrowed by atherosclerosis. Getting your LDL cholesterol checked helps determine your risk for heart disease. If your LDL cholesterol is high, treatment can reduce your chance of having a heart attack.

Tips to lower your ‘LDL’ (Bad) Cholesterol

 

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1. Curb Cholesterol, Not Flavor
It’s no secret that certain foods can help you lower your LDL (“bad”) cholesterol, which causes a buildup of plaque in the arteries that leads to heart disease, heart attacks, and stroke. But what may surprise you is that many of these foods are delicious and easy to incorporate into your everyday meals without sacrificing flavor or fun.

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2. Indulge a Little
Dark chocolate contains flavonoids, antioxidants that help lower LDL levels. Just make sure to eat in moderation, as chocolate is also high in saturated fat and sugar. You can also use dark, unsweetened cocoa powder in your cooking to get similar heart-healthy effects.

 

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3. Awesome Avocados
There’s more to avocados than just guacamole. They give you oleic acid, which helps lower the bad cholesterol in your bloodstream. Try putting a few slices on your turkey sandwich, or add them to a salad. Avocado oil, which has a subtle, sweet flavor, can also be used in place of other oils in cooking.

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4. Raise a Glass

Red wine contains resveratrol, a substance found in the red grape skin, which may prevent damage to blood vessels by reducing the risk of blood clots and lowering LDL. Drinking too much alcohol can cause a host of other health issues, however; so while a glass of red wine at dinner is fine, don’t overdo it.

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5. Tea Time
Both black and green teas contain powerful antioxidants that may reduce cholesterol levels. Green tea typically contains more of these antioxidant powerhouses, as it is made from unfermented leaves and is less processed. Just go easy on the cream and sugar.

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6. Go Nuts for Nuts
Nuts are high in polyunsaturated fatty acids, so almonds, walnuts, or pistachios can help reduce your LDL levels. Try sprinkling them on your salad, or eat them right out of hand as a snack. Just be sure to choose the low-salt option, and keep it to about 1.5 ounces a day — nuts are also high in calories. For almonds, that’s about 30 almonds or 1/3 cup.

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7. Wholesome Whole Grains
Barley, oatmeal and brown rice have lots of soluble fiber, which has been proven to lower LDL cholesterol by reducing the absorption of cholesterol into your bloodstream. Try switching out your regular pasta for the whole-grain version, or use brown rice instead of white. To give an added cholesterol-busting kick, top your morning oatmeal with high-fiber fruit like bananas or apples.

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8. Go Fishing
Fish like salmon, albacore tuna, sardines, and halibut are all rich in omega-3 fatty acids, which reduce triglycerides in the blood. Aim for 8 ounces of fish a week, and bake or grill the fish — don’t fry it — to keep it healthy.

Olive oil

9. Versatile Olive Oil
Olive oil is a plant-based fat, so it’s a better choice when you’re trying to lower your “bad” cholesterol than fats that come from animals. It’s great mixed with red wine vinegar, a minced garlic clove, and a little ground pepper for a salad dressing. For something different, try braising vegetables like carrots or leeks. Just drizzle 3 tablespoons of oil over vegetables in a snug baking dish, scatter some herbs, cover with foil, and put in a 375-degree oven for about 45 minutes.

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10. Oh Boy, It’s Soy
Edamame, soy milk, and tofu are high in protein, and eating just 25 grams a day can reduce your cholesterol by 5 to 6 percent. Snack on edamame, top off your bowl of cereal with soy milk, or sub tofu for meat in your stir-fries.

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11. Bountiful Beans
Black beans, kidney beans, lentils, oh my! All are rich in soluble fiber, which binds to cholesterol in the blood and moves it out of the body. Recent studies show eating 4.5 ounces of beans a day can reduce LDL levels by 5 percent. Try black bean burritos, or dip some veggies in hummus, which is made with chickpeas, for an afternoon snack. Or try this Caramelized Onion and White Bean Flatbread — beans are so versatile, the possibilities are endless.

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12. Make a Fruitful Change
Pears and apples have a lot of pectin, which is a type of fiber that can lower cholesterol. So do citrus fruits like oranges and lemons. Berries are also high in fiber. Try this Pear and Red Onion Gratin as a side dish. Or grab a Citrus Berry Smoothie in the morning before you head out the door.

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13. Eat Your Veggies
Most vegetables are high in fiber and low in calories. Eggplant and okra contain high amounts of soluble fiber. Eggplants are also high in antioxidants. But any kind of vegetables will give you fiber and nutrients that are good for you.

 

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14. Fortified Foods
Natural chemicals called sterols, which you get from plant foods, help your body absorb less cholesterol. Now, many foods from granola bars and yogurt to orange juice are fortified with plant sterols, which can help reduce cholesterol levels by 6% to 15%. Just check the label to make sure you’re not getting too many calories.

By : Dr Dahl D. Sagucio

 

source: Web MD

 

 

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